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What are the possible benefits of not being assertive?

There can be benefits to not being assertive, particularly when you have seen other people be punished for being assertive. For example, when you have a tyrannical, ego-driven leader who unfairly blames people when they point out problems or raise questions, it can make sense to keep a low profile and not be assertive. Similarly, if you know that nothing will change even if you raise concerns, you may sensibly opt not to waste time and energy being assertive. You may also be able to minimize your frustration if you accept certain difficult situations as they are rather than try to change them by being assertive. It is important, however, before you decide what to do (or not do) to weigh the possible benefits of not being assertive with the accompanying costs of not being assertive.